The following aspects need to be considered in order to fully heal and anchor back in our body, namely our Sacred Womb centre.
There’s often an emphasis on the physical aspect of ‘what happened’, And whilst this obviously needs to be considered, the energetic and emotional aspects of sexual abuse are equally as important to recognise and heal.
1. Fear of feeling overwhelmed.
Nobody wants to relive trauma. Totally understandable.
It’s important to access the associated emotions, but not necessary to relive anything. This is totally possible and although it may feel difficult as some of the distress moves out, afterwards you will feel much better.
2. Fear of not being believed
This can also be a projection of our own disbelief. For it is, truly incomprehensible that we can be hurt in this way.
3. Comparing pain and trauma
Pain is pain. The belief that your pain isn’t enough to warrant help, support or to talk about it keeps you stuck. Accepting that what happened did happen and that your feelings are valid is a big and important step towards healing.
The abuser may have made threats that if you tell anyone, you won’t be believed, or that they’ll do something to hurt your further or someone you love. There also could be the thought that it may have been your fault. It wasn’t. It’s that clear.
5. Self blame
Why didn’t I do something different, why did I put myself in that situation? are often sitting at the back of our mind. This can block us getting help, as we may think we should suffer in some way.
It’s estimated that 1 in 3 women have experienced some type of sexual trauma at some point in our lives. You are definitely not alone. How about reaching out to a trusted friend for support?
You’re not alone.
It wasn’t your fault.
You’re not broken, dirty or damaged.
You can live free of the trauma.
You can come fully back to your body.
You can have fruitful relationships.
You can feel safe enough to share your true self again.
Beyond the pain, beyond the trauma, is Wisdom.
I have set up a free and private (closed) Facebook group for you to connect with other women going through this.
A community of women who are going through a similar process to you will give you that often missing piece of support that is so needed.
Unconditional understanding, hearing what you are going through, non-judgement and presence in the face of pain.
These four principles are stated in the group boundaries, ensuring a cohesive support group.
The group is private and has a discreet name. Nobody can see what you post.
To ensure privacy, I ask that you submit your name and email address in the area provided below and you will receive an email with the link to join the group, plus a free guided meditation to help you connect with your body.