The Root Cause Of Keeping One’s Self Small

Many women I come across talk of keeping themselves small. It’s one of the core wounds that women in particular struggle with.

In this episode, Kim Barnard and I explore the 4 aspects that form the ‘root system’ that keep us living with tethers on our life force, and how to heal. 

There are several expressions of keeping ourselves small, which are (but aren’t limited to):

  • Feeling not good enough, or unworthy
  • Believing that somehow we don’t deserve love / money / success
  • Imposter syndrome (fearful that people will find out who we really are underneath)
  • Feeling afraid to embody our life force and what will happen
  • Scared to share an opinion
    Afraid to do what the work we want to in the world

The 4 areas of the root system and how to heal it are:

  • Cultural influences
  • Past life roots:  exploring the ‘trauma triangle’ – victim, perpetrator and failed rescuer states of being within within our consciousness. 
  • Roots in this life that are part of our attachment template.
  • Generational roots that amplify what’s already running in our consciousness.

The main take away from this episode, is that it IS possible to heal this, for the tethers to come off our energy, and to embody our life force again. 

We would love to hear how this lands with you, head on over to Instagram to share your experience.

Melanie Swan Podcast Host

Melanie Swan

Melanie is an internationally renowned leader in healing the physical womb, restoring the metaphysical womb, and connecting with the cosmic womb.

She’s a Womb Medicine Woman and Mulit-dimensional Trauma Healer with 20 year’s experience – who guides and empowers women to come home to their true nature.

She hosts The Sacred Womb Podcast, founded the Womb Medicine Woman Training® and is currently writing her first book The Sacred Womb, which at its core, is a handbook for the empowerment of womankind; due for release in late 2024.

She has traveled extensively, and is currently based in Thailand with her two beloved cats; Sophia and Lyra.


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